My thoughts on being a slut
Alright people, if you're bothering to read this, know first off this is going to be long, I have a lot to say. Some of you who know me a little better than just a super popular handsome kid on myspace (haha) have heard me ramble on about sex in this society, and how ridiculous some of the shit that is that we have branded onto our brain. I am here to try and make a difference, somewhat of a difference, and try to change the shit that religion has fucked up, that parenting has fucked up, and that old views on something so natural and so beautiful, has fucked up.
PLAIN AND SIMPLE- IF YOU HAVE SEX WITH PEOPLE, IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SLUT. If you ask me what a slut is, it is a person who has sex with someone to get something other than his/her rocks off. If you are using someone for drugs, money, friends/popularity, then you are a slut in my book; that is slutty. Slutty is doing it to get something you want or further yourself in anything other than a career (I make exceptions). Having sex because it feels fucking fantastic and relieves tension/stress, gets the blood pumping, good cardio workout, all those reasons are fine and dandy with me. Fuck away. Be safe, get tested regularly, don't pee on anyone under 18, and you should be set. I'm not saying sleep with everyone, but get some damn good sex. WHY NOT?! Because God looks down on people who have sex before marriage? FUCK THAT, thats the bullshit some old white people wrote years ago to keep the people in check, because sex was seen as deviant. GUESS WHAT, it isn't. So that theory is shot to hell. Ha ha, yes, shot to hell, where you were expected to go if you were fucking out of wedlock. The same people who wrote this in the holy book of all were also the ones that could no longer enjoy sex. Therefore they live an angry, unfulfilled life, hoping for promise in the afterlife. Think about it- if you weren't getting laid, wouldn't you wish everyone else weren't getting laid as well? Don't you get angry when it's been a few months and all your friends are telling you about their sexcapades? Mmmm...Coincidence?
CASE IN POINT- we all have our stories but this is a great one I was told, which inspired me to write this to be honest. A friend of mine was telling me about a girl she knew, who was a virgin until she got to college. She lost it her freshman year, and within that year, slept with 8 other guys, totalling 9. She was hooking up with guy number 10, but before they got to sex, she decided she couldn't have vaginal intercourse with him because double digits would make her a SLUT, a WHORE, whatever she had in mind that was dirty. So this female, ex virgin, now sex obsessed woman (can you BLAME HER?) decided to let this man have sex with her, but not in the vag, if youre following my hints here. She decided anal sex would keep her from feeling like she slept with 10 guys. GO FIGURE, I thought the pooper was worth 1.5 or something, last time I checked the point scale. Anyway, this is just one example of how ridiculous people can be with their convoluted thoughts. And I hope she enjoyed going to the bathroom the next few days, nevermind walking with her legs together.
Here's something else on my brain. We've all been in the situation where we meet someone and hook up. It happens, and then we start thinking with our hormones. Guys, I know at least one time you've been making out with a girl, groping her body, finally thinking you're gonna get some, but then, NOPE. And why, you ask why WHY can't we just have sex. "Because I'm not a slut" "Because I'm not easy" are probably common responses. So you respond with, "But you would like to have sex wouldn't you" AND, they respond with a big fat yes but they are biting their lip and still smacking your hands away from their crotch. Even worse, you may have been in a situation where you have done everything with a girl EXCEPT throw your dingaling inside, and then she stops you. Last time I checked, it's a little more personal to let someone go down on you than allow them to check your oil; but hey, that's just my opinion. Because of all this bullshit, for some reason, a lot of women have this wild idea in their head that doing everything but intercourse on the first date is fine, and then fucking like rabbits the next time you see the person, likely the next day, stops you from being a whore. This is also addressed in my previous blog about waiting. Don't you like how these go hand in hand?
NO ONE LIKES BLUE BALLS. Why get to the point that all you want to do is ravage the shit out of eachother, and stop? Because society has deemed it as evil, and taboo. Only in this society will shit like that happen (and some wild tribal cultures but they also chisel their teeth and eat babies and chop off your arm to welcome you to manhood). If you go around Europe, the views on sex as a whole are WAY more relaxed than the shit here. Don't believe me? Find someone from a country over there, straight from one of those countries, and chat with them. Hell, try to get off if you want!
I may be straying some, like I said, I have a lot to say. So onto something else random.
I have found, through my own personal research, haha, and things I hear from my confidants, that women tend to get attached after sex. I'm not saying all, believe it or not guys, you probably have been used for sex at some point in your life, be proud. Some woman deemed you important enough to get her off, and that's it. Wear a fucking Burger King crown around for the rest of the day, after you figure out which chick that was. You won't be able to tell, thats the problem. But there are some clues, probably the one that never called you back again and gave you a fake number. Or maybe she let you hit it again but that was it. But it is in their upbringing, because of this brainwash society has placed. When a woman has sex, it is stuck somewhere in her head that you are then expected to start a relationship with that person. Probably because you are already breaking the "moral code" that you are supposed to be with that person before you get your jollies off, but hey, close enough. Guys get freaked easily, which is funny, you figure by now most of us would expect the woman to be calling more, wanting to hang out more, and not just for sex; for cute things like dinner and spooning while watching romantic comedies- that is enough to freak anyone out. I love dinner and I love spooning and I hate romatic comedies, but I'll admit, I have had sex before under the pretenses that is was JUST SEX, and we weren't trying to be perfect couple #1 after that. So of course we look like douchebags, making up excuses, or hanging out with our guy friends too much, or suddenly becoming sick (who hasn't used that to get out of something?!) I swear I have a conclusive point here. If we all just expected sex to be sex, and relationships to form IF both parties are interested and it is something viable, then sex would be a lot easier, for everyone. I'm not saying everyone would be having sex everywhere, but people wouldn't be holding back because they know they will be attached and don't want gossip to get out that so and so fucked so and so after knowing him or her for 9 hours, SO WHAT, IT DOES HAPPEN. Believe it or not, people have sex just to have sex, and are okay with that.
Realize I am just pointing out my opinion here, I learned a lot about sex throughout college and was a teaching assistant for a 500 person class called "human sexuality". I know way too much about sex organs and sex and the history of sex and all that, it comes in handy though when I throw out random facts and people all go "ooooh, really?" That's my satisfaction. I am posting this for a few reasons, hopefully some people will actually take the time to read it, gather their own opinion (hopefully one is already formed and waiting to come out) and an INTELLECTUAL response can be posted beneath. Love me or hate me for this, I just think the United States would be more relaxed if we spent less time worrying about are we being slutty by having sex and more time worrying about who is going to get me off the best; things like that. I'm not looking for tons of random sex, believe me, I have always been the relationship type; I am just sick of hearing from both male and female friends of mine about how so and so wouldn't give them any or how so and so won't call them back. We are fighting a losing battle here people, we just need to recognize the roots and strike back.
PLAIN AND SIMPLE- IF YOU HAVE SEX WITH PEOPLE, IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SLUT. If you ask me what a slut is, it is a person who has sex with someone to get something other than his/her rocks off. If you are using someone for drugs, money, friends/popularity, then you are a slut in my book; that is slutty. Slutty is doing it to get something you want or further yourself in anything other than a career (I make exceptions). Having sex because it feels fucking fantastic and relieves tension/stress, gets the blood pumping, good cardio workout, all those reasons are fine and dandy with me. Fuck away. Be safe, get tested regularly, don't pee on anyone under 18, and you should be set. I'm not saying sleep with everyone, but get some damn good sex. WHY NOT?! Because God looks down on people who have sex before marriage? FUCK THAT, thats the bullshit some old white people wrote years ago to keep the people in check, because sex was seen as deviant. GUESS WHAT, it isn't. So that theory is shot to hell. Ha ha, yes, shot to hell, where you were expected to go if you were fucking out of wedlock. The same people who wrote this in the holy book of all were also the ones that could no longer enjoy sex. Therefore they live an angry, unfulfilled life, hoping for promise in the afterlife. Think about it- if you weren't getting laid, wouldn't you wish everyone else weren't getting laid as well? Don't you get angry when it's been a few months and all your friends are telling you about their sexcapades? Mmmm...Coincidence?
CASE IN POINT- we all have our stories but this is a great one I was told, which inspired me to write this to be honest. A friend of mine was telling me about a girl she knew, who was a virgin until she got to college. She lost it her freshman year, and within that year, slept with 8 other guys, totalling 9. She was hooking up with guy number 10, but before they got to sex, she decided she couldn't have vaginal intercourse with him because double digits would make her a SLUT, a WHORE, whatever she had in mind that was dirty. So this female, ex virgin, now sex obsessed woman (can you BLAME HER?) decided to let this man have sex with her, but not in the vag, if youre following my hints here. She decided anal sex would keep her from feeling like she slept with 10 guys. GO FIGURE, I thought the pooper was worth 1.5 or something, last time I checked the point scale. Anyway, this is just one example of how ridiculous people can be with their convoluted thoughts. And I hope she enjoyed going to the bathroom the next few days, nevermind walking with her legs together.
Here's something else on my brain. We've all been in the situation where we meet someone and hook up. It happens, and then we start thinking with our hormones. Guys, I know at least one time you've been making out with a girl, groping her body, finally thinking you're gonna get some, but then, NOPE. And why, you ask why WHY can't we just have sex. "Because I'm not a slut" "Because I'm not easy" are probably common responses. So you respond with, "But you would like to have sex wouldn't you" AND, they respond with a big fat yes but they are biting their lip and still smacking your hands away from their crotch. Even worse, you may have been in a situation where you have done everything with a girl EXCEPT throw your dingaling inside, and then she stops you. Last time I checked, it's a little more personal to let someone go down on you than allow them to check your oil; but hey, that's just my opinion. Because of all this bullshit, for some reason, a lot of women have this wild idea in their head that doing everything but intercourse on the first date is fine, and then fucking like rabbits the next time you see the person, likely the next day, stops you from being a whore. This is also addressed in my previous blog about waiting. Don't you like how these go hand in hand?
NO ONE LIKES BLUE BALLS. Why get to the point that all you want to do is ravage the shit out of eachother, and stop? Because society has deemed it as evil, and taboo. Only in this society will shit like that happen (and some wild tribal cultures but they also chisel their teeth and eat babies and chop off your arm to welcome you to manhood). If you go around Europe, the views on sex as a whole are WAY more relaxed than the shit here. Don't believe me? Find someone from a country over there, straight from one of those countries, and chat with them. Hell, try to get off if you want!
I may be straying some, like I said, I have a lot to say. So onto something else random.
I have found, through my own personal research, haha, and things I hear from my confidants, that women tend to get attached after sex. I'm not saying all, believe it or not guys, you probably have been used for sex at some point in your life, be proud. Some woman deemed you important enough to get her off, and that's it. Wear a fucking Burger King crown around for the rest of the day, after you figure out which chick that was. You won't be able to tell, thats the problem. But there are some clues, probably the one that never called you back again and gave you a fake number. Or maybe she let you hit it again but that was it. But it is in their upbringing, because of this brainwash society has placed. When a woman has sex, it is stuck somewhere in her head that you are then expected to start a relationship with that person. Probably because you are already breaking the "moral code" that you are supposed to be with that person before you get your jollies off, but hey, close enough. Guys get freaked easily, which is funny, you figure by now most of us would expect the woman to be calling more, wanting to hang out more, and not just for sex; for cute things like dinner and spooning while watching romantic comedies- that is enough to freak anyone out. I love dinner and I love spooning and I hate romatic comedies, but I'll admit, I have had sex before under the pretenses that is was JUST SEX, and we weren't trying to be perfect couple #1 after that. So of course we look like douchebags, making up excuses, or hanging out with our guy friends too much, or suddenly becoming sick (who hasn't used that to get out of something?!) I swear I have a conclusive point here. If we all just expected sex to be sex, and relationships to form IF both parties are interested and it is something viable, then sex would be a lot easier, for everyone. I'm not saying everyone would be having sex everywhere, but people wouldn't be holding back because they know they will be attached and don't want gossip to get out that so and so fucked so and so after knowing him or her for 9 hours, SO WHAT, IT DOES HAPPEN. Believe it or not, people have sex just to have sex, and are okay with that.
Realize I am just pointing out my opinion here, I learned a lot about sex throughout college and was a teaching assistant for a 500 person class called "human sexuality". I know way too much about sex organs and sex and the history of sex and all that, it comes in handy though when I throw out random facts and people all go "ooooh, really?" That's my satisfaction. I am posting this for a few reasons, hopefully some people will actually take the time to read it, gather their own opinion (hopefully one is already formed and waiting to come out) and an INTELLECTUAL response can be posted beneath. Love me or hate me for this, I just think the United States would be more relaxed if we spent less time worrying about are we being slutty by having sex and more time worrying about who is going to get me off the best; things like that. I'm not looking for tons of random sex, believe me, I have always been the relationship type; I am just sick of hearing from both male and female friends of mine about how so and so wouldn't give them any or how so and so won't call them back. We are fighting a losing battle here people, we just need to recognize the roots and strike back.
posted by official dynasty at
11:08 AM
7 Comments:
i honestly dont agree with what you have said .... i dont feel that it is okay for a guy to assume the only reason a girtl isnt down for casual sex is because of a reputation ...yes i myself have had my shit tickled if you know what i mean but i was the one saying no to a serious relationship with that person and i guess i let my guard down time had passed and before you knew the casual sex wasnt so casual and now look i feel like a toddler who lost her puppy ....so girls in my opinion keep saying no
I think your opinions on sex change with time & life..
In high school I thought casual sex was for loose women. Six years later, I realize the more adult way of thinking would be to realize that it's fine for 2 consenting adults have sex without being called a slut or ho. Playing dating games is just that: a game.
And yes, some women can knock boots without mooning over bridal magazines the next morning.
I agree with a lot here..
But I don't think you realize how important reputation is to most people. I know that in my "scene" people judge you right off the bat, therefore, I don't associate myself romantically with any of them.My business is very precious to me, and many others. How am I to know that the person I sleep with won't kiss and tell?
But you could yell at those WRETCHED EVIL CUM BUCKET of girls that do drag you poor, hard guys into the bedroom (or back seat??) jerk it, lick it, rub against it, and then when you reach for the condom.. "WHAT THE FUCK KIND OF GIRL DO YOU THINK I AM?" That, I just don't understand. It's different when the girl is 16 and doesn't know any better, but at 18+ (assuming she lost it at 16 - average age) there's no reason to act innocent. You're no longer obligated to wear a white dress at your wedding, it is impossible to virginate, you're not a slut, everyone's doing it.. get over it, and enjoy it!
So if we're talking about choosing your partner wisely, then yeah, fuck the night away.. as Paris Hilton would say "That's hot!" But if you know this person will tell everyone in church, then I do not feel bad for you. If you're so worried about your reputation, get out of your scene and find someone in West Guam.It's all about choosing the right person to do it with.
Either way, I do agree that a girl isn't a slut if she just wants pleasure. We girls are just as horny, I don't wanna hear it!
Everything I wanted to say has been said by others, just wanted to say I agree with most of it, who cares who has sex with who, everyone needs to get laid at some point in time and if your not in a relationship you have to find it somewhere! And when you do find it you don't necessarily have to have a relationship with that person the next day or ever.
If a female wants to, shall we say, indulge in her own sexual pleasures and happens to fornicate solely to, how did you so cleverly put it? "get her rocks off"? that doesn't mean that said female is a slut? I agree that fucking for drugs, money, etc. is reason enough to label that chick a whore, but are you saying if she only wants to "get her rocks off" ;) then she's okay?
if she wants good sex, she can have good sex and i won't look down on her. unless she has good sex with 8 midgets covered in thousand island dressing.
then i might start to question things
I think you are totally right. I'm not sure why people are so obsessed over it. I love the classic response I get from guys though when I call them out on all the girls they've been with "I'm a guy, its ok." why can you get off but I can't??
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