Sex and Friends

The age old question- can men and women be friends? Answer- maybe, if the two are completely unattracted to eachother. Otherwise, best of luck. Granted, the man is more likely to fuck it up, but a drunk woman always stumbles forth with the truth. A drunk man just likes warm holes to bury himself in; for a total of 6, 7 minutes maybe.

How do men and women even fall into friendships? I have found in my own experience it was a one sided crush at some point, that one or both realized would never work and it kinda just fizzled into hanging out, completely platonic, but with an air of sexual tension constantly surrounding it. Again, blame the male more often for this. Maybe they are coworkers, then the sexual tension exists but without alcohol it is like an invisible border that SHOULD NOT BE CROSSED. Especially in a more formal, professional setting. If we are talking about something like a college job, like when my friends and I worked at Applebee's- hell, go to town if you are both in that kinda mood. But somewhere that you and your other might be competing for job openings- bad idea. You will both wind up talking smack about the other, trying to form alliances, having secret contests to see which one is willing to suck up more- a venerable recipe for disaster. Especially come happy hour, because the details will no doubt come out and wind up ugly. That's why most places have a strict no dating policy- it is NO GOOD for productivity, office politics, or anyone's job in the end. Again, if you are blue collar or working part time or even a stripper, then go for the glory. Otherwise, think about how much you hate everyone you work with of the opposite sex, let the little things they do get under your skin- but not enough under your skin so that you are still interested in hate sex.

Where was I?
Friends and sex, sure.

So you CAN be friends with someone of the opposite sex, it is possible. But likely, she will have to be a tomboy or love sports. On the flipside, he will have to be gay to keep her interested. All of this does not apply in college because you are all interested in one thing- booze. But after that, you are all supposed to be responsible, and looking to start families, and all those "adult" type things. None of that equals a quality friendship with someone you might be attracted to, sober or under the influence. Granted, beer goggles will make a lot of people more attractive for all the wrong reasons, so choose your friends wisely in the end.

What if you already had sex with someone? Can you be friends then? Probably not. Why? Someone will get jealous eventually. Someone will want more. Someone will wind up not feeling satsfied, and will end any hope for more sex or just completely cock block you. Either way, friendship likely to disappear. Jealousy is a bitch, I have been and definitely can be jealous when situations arise between someone I am potentially interested in and another suitor. It is tied into the whole wanting more- but there is a difference. Men will likely not be interested in more and just believe they can make everything work with just sex- a la the episode of Seinfeld on tonight where Jerry and Elaine tried to just be bang buddies. Didn't work, in the end they wound up together because Elaine made it that way. So true. Not saying it is always the woman wanting more, some guys are suckers for relationship status. But we can all agree it would more likely be the woman in that situation, wanting more than just physical action. Or one of you will be an asshole and try to push the limits, or try the other. This can be brought about because there is no relationship- in an attempt to form jealousy? Or someone might just be flat out oblivious, thinking that bringing around another partner, knowing the friend/lover will also be there, is a good idea. That sentence is really, really long. But you get the idea (hopefully). I'm only talking about it because I have seen it. Potentially experienced it, but definitely I have tried to stay away. I learned my lesson, have you?

Here is a better question- what is it about sex that always seems to fuck things up? Does the intense intimacy that quickly fades also steal your souls? For whatever reason, it always seems like after two people engage in intercourse, things can never be the same. Without advancement, there will be quick regression. Phone calls will severely decline, attitudes change, tempers flare- what an ugly, ugly situation. Expect more on this subject.